Friday, December 21, 2012

A quick-or not-2011/12 wrap up.

Where to begin....

Its been almost 2 years since I've blogged last. That, is sad. What's even more sad is the fact that I couldn't remember my log in info to GET to this blog. But, with everything that's happened these last 2 years...it's not surprising. In the interest of time, I'll bullet point these last few years and perhaps elaborate on a later date. I WANT to start doing better at blogging or journaling so I'll start with this and see if it sticks.

so...2011

  • We moved to be closer to C's job and bought a gorgeous house here in M-town.
  • We moved close to an amazing elementary school with a heaven sent kindergarten teacher.
  • June 2011-C left. Our hearts broken and a new life begins.
  • I lost several friends in the process. Icing on the cake.
  • August 2011-I got a full time job for the first time since I got married in 2003.
  • K starts school and her teacher is just, well, terrible. And by terrible, I mean the I'm a lazy teacher who sees a kid who needs a little bit of extra help and labels her terrible. Poor kid had no chance her first grade year. 
  • Divorce is finalized on November 22, 2011. Never thought I'd see that day. 
Enter 2012

  • The new year brought hope of our new life that I was attempting to embrace.
  • C started coming around a lot more....yet I still refused to allow him "in".
  • I saw in him a changed man....but I still wasn't wanting to admit it. I dug my feet in and told God I didn't want to see all this. I had just gotten comfortable (like that's REALLY true!) with being single and a single mom and this new "life".
  • But, much to my chagrin, the Lord had another thing in mind....and I ultimately knew it. 
  • In late February, I said yet another prayer and took a leap of faith that allowed C back into our lives in a real way. 
  • February 23, we officially started dating again.
  • March, I left my full time job to be around for K more because of her struggles emotionally and at school. Best. Decision. Ever. She turned around within weeks of me being around more. When we follow His will, even when it seems like an impossible way, we have an amazing sense of peace.
  • I started working part-time at a local retail chain "that shall remain nameless".
  • May- a turning point in our relationship. He moved back in with us and that brought out a lot of emotions for me that I needed to deal with...and consequently, did.
  • K struggled with trusting her daddy again so that brought a whole other set of issues for all of us. 
  • I started training for a triathlon.
  • Competed in 2 triathlons!  
  • Joined a "marriage" class at our church that was life changing.
  • I started back to school in August.
  • K started 2nd grade and got THE BEST TEACHER EVER!!! This is not an understatement. Ms. M has turned K's way of learning around and she now actually ENJOYS to learn. It's been such a blessing to have her in that class.
  • "Celebrated" where God has brought us on November 22. A year after our divorce, we were running the Houston Turkey Trot...together. (Well, I ran ahead of him...haha!!) It was our way of starting a new tradition, new memories, healing old wounds and allowing hope in. It was a wonderful day.
And so here we are. Present day. And as I look over these bullet points I see my life written in such a simple way. Yet, there are so many gaps, so many holes, so much pain, heartache, loss and hurt left out. But what I get most out of those points, what inspires me the most, is that I see all that went on, all that hurt, pain etc, and I see nothing but hope. Hope that keeps me going and my belief that all of this serves a greater purpose and will in the end impact others in a profound way continues to grow. I truly get excited for all that lies before us and that promise that God whispered to me in my darkest of days is slowly being groomed to come to pass.

We have come a long way since those days of despair that we used to call our "marriage". C has grown in ways I can't express, I have grown and allowed God to show me things I was too stubborn to see before. K has just blossomed and I could not be more proud of that little girl. She has an amazing heart of gold and is so incredibly selfless. I hope that I can get her to see the beauty that she is and have confidence in that. She is such a gift.

A small snippet into my last 2 years...and maybe, just maybe I will expound on it all a little bit later.